Well, as we talked about in the last Blog, we carry our attitudes, beliefs and behaviors around with us, through life, like baggage. Then we go from relationships to relationships, not really understanding why things always turn out the same way each time, time after time.
This is when you start saying..."Why me, or why does it always happen to me!"
Believe it or not, it really has everything to do with you.
Here's a hard concept to grasp for most people...
Too behonest, we have relationships with just about anything. Let me ask you this question?
Can you have a relationship with a friend? Yes, that pretty easy to understand. But can you have a relationship with you car? Yeah, you see guys rubbing wax all over it all the time. So, If this is the case, they you can have a relationship with just about anything, is this correct?
Oh, what about women? Can a women have a relationship with their shoes? Hell yes you say. I know a young lady that has hundreds of pairs of shoes and each pair is placed in a plastic box with a lid and a picture on the front so she can't tell what's in the box...get it!
So you see, we can have relationships with inanimated objects. Now here's the brain teaser. Because of our attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors, we actually treat each relationship the same. Why? Because we don't have any choice, we are programmed to respond each and every time because of our beliefs...get it.
Example: How you treat you car is the same way you treat all of the other relationship you have. Ouch, that's pretty tough isn't it. If you have a bad relationship with your car, you better check to see what kind of a relationship you have with: Your Boss, your Mom, Your Dad, your room, your school work and yes...your hockey equipment.
Ah, no this is not a psychoanalysis on your hockey equipment bag. It is to show you the relationships we have with things that come into our lives. Kind of like the Greener Pasture Theory, why was the guys new back yard, now turning bad? Why, because the things that he learned in the past (attitude, beliefs and behaviors) allows him to treat things that way.
Have you asked yourself when someone is being rude to you..."Man this guy's a real tool!"
Why? If someone is being rude too you, you automatically put up sometype of guard or defense. But in reality, that person is just a reflection or a sounding board of our attitudes, beliefs and behaviors. One of the ways you over come these relationships is to ask yourself..."Is this true, and am I really like this?" If you are...change! If you're not, then understand that this is a life lesson and move on.
When is it time to leave a relationship? That's right...when it is working! Yeah, but if it working, why leave? If you leave a relationship when it not working, you take all of those new attitude bagage with you into the next relationship.
So how does all of this apply to hockey?
What kind of relationships do you have with your teammates? Your coach, your skates, your equipment?
Ok, what kind of relationship do you have with yourself? Do you do or make the extra effort during practice? When the coach has you doing starting and stopping drills all the time, what kind of a relationship do you have with your coach or with yourself, then?
This is when the things start getting tough. These tough moments are know as "Walls". Even though they are mental in nature, they are still as real as the physical wall.
Next blog...Climbing Walls!